Monday, September 17, 2012

Validation

Not that true validation can really come from a social network app, but here you go.

All I have to say is; I knew it all along!

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  1. That was a no-brainer! See? Even the powers that be say so!

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  2. HA! Hey Josh! Happy New Year dude.
    Kat are you online?
    Can we do the Q&A?

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    1. Hey! Thanks man. Are you of the tribe? What's the q&a?

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    2. Yeah, but only 2 questions tonight. I'm tired.

      Josh, he's part of no tribe. Actually, he took the naked dip in the Catholic pool as a baby but he associated with no faith these days. He's faithless.

      Ok- Q & A time. I was talking about this with Mike the other night. We were talking about open forums and whatever and he said how some people are just more honest online because of the anonymity of it all. So, I agreed to do a rapid fire Q & A whenever you two were online the same time I was.

      So you each get two questions and I have like a minute to answer both. give or take a minute because of blogger glitches.

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  3. Oh that sounds pretty cool.

    1- Which female character do you see yourself like the most- Katniss (The Hunger Games) Anastasia (50 Shades) or Lisbeth (Dragon Tattoo)

    2- Do you really see yourself as a mother anytime in your future (biological obstacles aside)

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    1. 1) Katniss. By process of elimination. The other two characters are damaged and that's how I relate to them; in a negative way. Katniss has her own issues and probably can be very cold and logical, but at the end of the day she tries to do the best for the people she loves and everything she does is to protect them. She is unselfish and puts her loved ones ahead of her, even if she comes off immature or crazy at times.

      2) Romantically, I do see myself as a mother because I know I have the heart for it. Realistically, I can't because I'm having such a hard time taking care of myself, I am terrified how I would fuck up raising another human being.

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    2. I see you as Katniss, too, but not because of the cold logical thing. I see you like her because of the feirce love she has for the people in her life, the sacrifices she makes over and over for all of them, and her strength. A weaker girl wouldn't have made it. She made it through 2 Hunger Games and countless attempts at her life!! I don't think she was being immature or crazy, she had a temporary nervois breakdown. Cut the girl some slack!!! lol

      You would be a wonderful parent because you do worry about doing a good job. I beleve this new year has many good things in store for you. Please don't lose your faith!

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    3. Forgive my grogginess last night. I was really tired when I answered all this, but I woke up this morning thinking to myself that I wanted to rip you a new one for even suggesting I related to that Fifty Shades of Stupid character. I think I said I saw similar negative traits, but I don't relate to that insipid bitch AT ALL.

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  4. In a nutshell- no essay answers- if you get ONE do-over which ex would you try and hit reset with and do it again the "right" way?

    Do you respect your dad for the damage he did in order to make you work harder to be the person you are or do you secretly hate him for doing what he did to you and making you the person you are?

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    1. Right now, I can't see myself in a do-over with any of them. Being single this past year opened my eyes to a lot of things. With the exception of K, I didn't like who I was when I was with them. I was angry all the time with my ex-husband. I was too dependent with J. With the last one, I swallowed a lot of myself to try and fit into a mold that his world demanded I conform to. The awesome person I started out being when I first got together with them disappeared quickly once there was more at stake in these relationships, and a reset button isn't going to fix those things. Even if I did it all over and made myself stay "me", it wasn't going to change the things about them that I didn't find acceptable. So, even if I still have love for them (some moreso than others), I don't think I could put my heart through all that again. It was all too painful and too draining, and life is too short to feel anything less than happy with who you are and who you're with.

      That's a loaded question about my dad. On one hand, there are things he did and is still trying to do that I would find unacceptable at any age I am. It's the reason I don't sleep at night in this house. It's the reason I had to have my locks changed. On the other hand, if I didn't have a cold, uncaring bastard as a father, I probably wouldn't be as self-reliant as I am. I don't expect much from people because the default is usually that they are always going to come up short. If they come through, then it's a happy surprise. A father sets the tone of what any girl expects out of a relationship. I guess I can blame my dad for all my failed romances, but I'm a grown woman who makes my own decisions. And I know of women who had great dads who still fuck up all their relationships. Everything happens for a reason. I don't hate my father because I am a stronger human being because he proved to be so weak. I don't love him, either.

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    2. Those are really good answers. I don't think there's enough blog space available to ever really explain them in depth, but some things don't need to be said aloud right?

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    3. And I'm so sorry you feel that way about your father.

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    4. I think I specifically said no essay answers!!!!!! I wanted it all in a word or within a sentence. It's ok. We'll practice this qA thing.

      I don't think youre being honest about the reset button. SOmetimes you wrtie things and I know youre wishing you were still with one of them. I give him a boner by mentioning who but you know who I'm talking about.

      The sooner you get away from that man, the better your life will be. Josh, don't be sorry she feels that way about her father. Be happy the man hasn't gotten the Janie's Got a Gun treatment.

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    5. Josh- No one should ever feel like the truth can't be said aloud. I think there's a time and a place for everything but not a time and a place to lie. Don't feel sorry about the way I feel about my dad. Feel sorry for him for being who he is.

      Mike- Don't cross that line, buddy.

      And I didn't understand what you meant about the rapid fire thing at first, so we'll do it again with clearer rules. But, if you want one word or one sentence answers you shouldn't ask such probing questions.

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